It is also very important to communicate much

Catherine Gourguechon, psychologist and coach

Training psychologist, Catherine Gourguechon is franchised March Venus Coaching and founded the Office of personal development CMGA.

Why undertake as a couple The first motivation is often the "coup de cur". Many couples share the same passion or dream for a long time to get together a restaurant, for example But above all, they are generally looking for a different way of life, the opportunity to spend more time together and escape hierarchical relationships to their business. Each is the other, with its strengths and weaknesses, and can be trusted. The flexibility of schedules also to more easily manage family life. In the current context of economic crisis, it is finally a way to create his own activity and ensure the survival of the couple by itself.

What to do before The prerequisites the most important is the joining of the project: the couple must agree fully on his motives. Any creation of business application a huge investment in time and money, and generates much stress. Or in a couple creation, everything is multiplier! It is therefore imperative that each has chosen this project knowing. Hence the importance of taking advice, gather different opinions before deciding, especially among those who have already lived the same experience. Some of the issues to be resolved from the outset: what will be the decision-making process, which will decide if conflit In this connection, it is important well quite, and to define a third benevolent to differentiate between the spouses in case of disagreement on the business: accountant, lawyer, financial advisor or simple friend of the family.

What are the risks on a personal level A couple, it is a multiple entity: "you" "me" "us." It is essential to live these different entities. However, if it began as a couple, runs the risk of becoming only a "us." Indeed, by living together 24 hours a day, torque project merges with the enterprise project, which may impair the individuality of each. It must also be aware that the couple will alternate moments of anxiety and enthusiasm, according to the vagaries of the life of the company: it may be tempting to blame the other failures of the now

What advice give to limit these risks It must be clear between the professional sphere and private sphere limits, for not letting ourselves be invaded. When a trade, simply close the door to "cut" with the work sometimes. With activities at home, it is more difficult I then recommend to have an Office in the House with a dedicated professional telephone line which is unresponsive when family. The ideal is to establish rules of life: do not talk about the company at table, preserve at least one day a week where it does not work, organize for déconnecter Romantic weekends That each partner has its own space, better also provide different, if possible offices in two separate parts. Finally, it is essential to keep different leisure activities so that each exists independently of the couple. This is true for all couples, but even more for those who create a whole company!

What are the behaviors to avoid This is not because the couple should not behave in a professional relationship: even with his spouse, should "put the forms" and do not ask more that it cannot. It is also very important to communicate much. Here also, this applies to all couples, but the impacts are heavier in life professionnelle Should exchange information on planning, to allow to do not agree and respect the biological rhythm of each - including sleep.

Are all couples made to do together It all depends on their structure at the outset. Fusion couples will naturally identify more easily with this type of organization; others have need to keep a degree of financial autonomy and citizen This is not because we love that it is necessarily well work together: the association mobilizes other resources than the common life. Some couples build in difficulty; others lose their means and their potential. For a little fragile couples, who have trouble communicating business may weaken even further an already unstable union. Conversely, for others, this experiment can give meaning to their project, feed their love and become the cement to seal their union. The differences of each can transform into complementary skills that will make the strength of the company. It comes back to the Alchemy of the couple: the company is one project among others - children, Cook - where each brings its ingredients to the realization of all!

Are there periods of life more suitable for this type of project Couples with young children have a dense family life, which is difficult to reconcile with a business project. Even with telework, it is not clear to focus when you have a child of 3 years at home! It is sometimes better to wait until children are teenagers and begin to emancipate; This is a good time to re-create something as a couple. But above all, business is a matter of opportunity. Need to feel ready, have a project thought by both spouses and accede to 200. The timing depends on each individu

What to do on failure Any creation of company, it is fundamental to the ability to fail. Should know persevere beyond the first difficulties - one or two years - but there is no point of striving if the company doesn't really work. In the original plan, the couple must define how long it is to succeed and to allow one to decide that the adventure should stop. Must be able to say: "it is not our couple who fails, it is this project. Only this distinction allows to have a healthy report with the company.